Planning a memorial is an unavoidable step in every person’s life. But there are many misconceptions about the process that put many people off planning this step until the last minute. The reality is, pre-planning can make things a lot easier for you and your family. Let’s go through a few of the most common myths and explain why they’re simply not true.
Myth #1: Memorial Planning Is Only Necessary Later in Life
It’s normal to think that planning a monument is something you do towards the end of your life. But the unfortunate truth is, unexpected situations happen all the time. This is especially true after you reach a certain age or experience a major life change. Planning as early as possible takes the burden off loved ones. It gives them solid directions once the time comes, giving them all the time they need to mourn their loss.
Myth #2: Pre-Planning Is Complicated
You might think pre-planning your memorial is full of complex legal or financial decisions, but that’s really not the case. This process is all about stating your memorial or funeral preferences so your loved ones can follow your wishes.
Some factors you might wish to decide ahead of time include:
- Choosing a headstone
- Type of funeral
- Cemetery location
- Whether cultural or religious traditions are included
- Type of burial plot
- Personalized inscriptions
Additionally, most memorial providers will answer all your questions and walk you through this process to make it simpler.
Myth #3: Families Will Automatically Know What You Want
Just because you might’ve mentioned your plans in a passing conversation doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be in writing. Assuming that your family will make the right decision once the time comes may be adding too much pressure on them during an already difficult time.
That said, don’t assume they know everything. Pre-planning removes any lingering uncertainty and fills any potential gaps your family might have about your personal wishes.
Myth #4: It’s Too Difficult To Talk About With Family
Many families might avoid pre-planning because they’re afraid to talk about these issues. And while discussing a potential funeral may be uncomfortable, these conversations can actually prevent conflicts down the line. It gets everyone on the same page and ensures your loved ones have a clear sense of what you want once the time comes.
If you’re planning to have this conversation but feeling unsure how to approach it, there are ways to do so without hurting your family. Always focus on the planning aspect instead of the loss involved. Also, choose a calm moment when everyone’s together to discuss this issue. These small details help you open the topic while still showing respect for their feelings.
Start Planning Your Memorial With Our Help
There’s no doubt pre-planning has plenty of misconceptions that stop families from getting started. However, this process will help your loved ones focus on mourning their loss without worrying about last-minute logistics.
Our team at Eternal Memorials has helped grieving families from Long Island, NYC, and New Jersey pre-plan monuments and memorials that stand the test of time. Please contact us at 631-755-1200 to learn more.


